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How To Identify & Handle Stress

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Marquita, a local resident of Sumter South Carolina, sat down in a brief interview to tell her story on what causes her to become stressed. She also talked about coming up with different techniques to reduce her stress level. She is 32 years old and is a single mother of three. She works and attends school full-time. When asked what causes stress for her she said that she becomes stressed with minimum help from her children’s father. Also, mentioning the fact that they don’t live in the same household as their father.

She stated that most of her stress is caused at home, but that she experiences high stress while dealing with personal issues too. Her finances, full-time workload at school and high blood pressure all are included in her personal issues. Out of all the things that cause high stress in her life she mentioned that she could control some. “I can control my blood pressure by taking medicine and watching my sodium intake. I can partially control my personal issues.” Lastly, she stated she could control her finances by spending money wisely.

During the interview, Marquita stated that she loved to attend church and learn about spiritual life. Spending time with her children, doing make-up and traveling is what she enjoys and does the most. “I’m passionate about life because it’s too short. I experience so much death with family members, I’m just happy to wake up every day.”

When asked if she manages her time well she replied, “No, my time management is very bad.” She often wishes for an extra three or four hours a day. Procrastination was the explanation she gave for not managing her time well. Marquita’s techniques to try to handle stress included being by herself and simply taking time to meditate and think.

Too many activities a day is not the problem she explained. “I have a lot of time; I just don’t use it wisely because of minimum help.” She often feels vulnerable to stress. Yes, easy to become stressed when her kids are fighting or when she is tired. She admits to trying to please everyone, which can cause her to be highly stressed. “I always put pressure on me.”

She was asked to explain how she handles stress a second time; she said, “I just read my Bible”.

Darien, Marquita’s oldest son, was asked to describe how he felt his mother handled stress from day to day. He said “She gets really quiet and sometimes she even reads a book”. As Darien described his mother’s stress he also talked about helping out at home and how he tries to assist in every way to help his mom.

After sitting down with Marquita and her son, research was completed on finding ways to handle stress. According to Margarita Tartakovsky, the author of an article titled “>10 Practical Ways to Handle Stress”, Stress is normal and everyone is faced with it at some point. The best thing to do is to “take action”. Here are a few ways that Tartakovsky says stress can be handled:

  1. Figure out where the stress is coming from
  2. Consider what you can control and work on that
  3. Do what you love
  4. Manage your time well
  5. Create a toolbox of techniques
  6. Pick off the negotiable from your plate
  7. Don’t leave yourself extra stress
  8. Preserve good boundaries
  9. Realize there’s a difference between worrying and caring
  10. Embrace mistakes and don’t drown in perfectionism

For more detailed information on how to handle stress you can click here.

Notes From the Author:

We all come from different walks of life. Along our journeys to mastery life can and will throw curve balls. It’s up to us to believe in ourselves, seek help and move on. As our journey shortens we must stay motivated and proactive. “Do what you love”. Stress can be experienced anywhere and everyone has different stress triggers. Identify what is causing the stress, and try to find ways to handle it. If it’s beyond your control let it roll off your back. It’s just another bump in the road.

Attendance Is Important Too

Attendance Is Important Too

From The Author

Showing up for class is just as important as showing up for a job. Young adults must practice now for their future. My website if focused on motivating and encouraging young adults in every way possible. Attendance will be an important factor in one’s career.

Mary Adger, a former substitute teacher for Clarendon County who served for years, agreed to discuss the importance of attendance in schools. She was first asked to explain why attendance in grade school students important is important. She stated that attendance is important because students are more likely to succeed in academics when they attend school on a regular basis. She said students who are consistently absent make it very hard for teachers to teach their students skills so that they can progress and continue to learn new material.

Below is the S.C. Code of Laws: Section 59-65-90 Rules & Regulation
The State Board of Education shall establish regulations defining lawful and unlawful absences beyond those specifically named in this article and additional regulations as are necessary for the orderly enrollment of pupils so as to provide for uniform dates of entrance. These regulations shall require: (1) that school officials shall immediately intervene to encourage the student’s future attendance when the student has three consecutive unlawful absences or a total of five unlawful absences and (2) that the district board of trustees or its designee shall promptly approve or disapprove any student absence in excess of ten days. As used in this section, “intervene” means to identify the reasons for the child’s continued absence and to develop a plan in conjunction with the student and his parent or guardian to improve his future attendance.

Provided, However, That nothing within this section shall interfere with the Board’s authority to at any time refer a child to a truancy prevention program or to the court pursuant to Section 59-65-50.

Mrs. Adger was asked if she agreed with section 59-65-90 of the S.C. Code of Laws. She said, “Absolutely, action must be taken for those students who have too many unlawful absences”. She agreed that those students need encouragement and an action plan to help improve their attendance. Mary explained that learning is a progressive activity and that each day an assignment builds upon those of the previous day. “As a former substitute teacher, I can assure you that regular student participation in daily activities can play an important role in a student’s success.”

After discussing why she agreed with the law on attendance in school, Mrs. Adger was asked to provide information on how students can benefit from attending school versus those who have frequent absences. She replied, “Working in a public school allowed me to see students benefit from great attendance all the time.” She said students with good attendance usually achieve higher grades and love school. She added that students with a regular attendance routine seemed to develop other responsible behaviors. Mary went on to explain that those with poor attendance usually are not able to keep up with school work and that these students usually have lower grades.

Section 59-65-260 of the S.C Code of Laws talks about the duties of attendance supervisors relating to non-attending children. This section also discusses how the attendance supervisor works to get parents involved in motivating and persuading young adults to attend school. Mrs. Adger was asked to explain from her experience what parents could do to help. She said that parents must make sure their children go to school regularly, is on time and understand that their parents don’t approve frequent absences. Lastly, she mentioned that if days are missed, the parent is responsible for making sure the work is picked up from the teacher and is completed.

Theresa Gibson, is a local citizen of Clarendon County. She has a daughter that is currently attending public schools in this county. She was asked to give advice on the importance of school attendance. “It’s important for students to know that having a good education will help them get the best possible start in life.” She mentioned that when she was a student she learned things that she now uses as an adult. She said that potential job employers want employees who are going to attend work regularly.

For more information Mary Adger can be contacted @ (803)-473-7399. Theresa Gibson @ (803) 485-5500

The infographic below is a visual of how schools can improve attendance

The infographic below shows the impact attendance has on students